One day soon i shall improve and simplify this story in this site. It kindof spilled over into my 'stream of consciousness' riffing site.
ralphschism.com
But all is connected. And fundamentally as with environmentalism (all measurements say the UK environment carries on being decimated at a HIGHER rate the last decade - bird numbers reduce by double the rate they were reducing 30 years ago - RSPB data) the real cause is lanyardism or put in simpler language 'professionalised' SOUTH EAST based 'third sector' spin doctors running 'initiatives' meant to be there to actually change issues but in fact they operate in such a pathetic risk averse mode - sucking up to government money on the side, they only ever take the 'don't frighten the horses' line.
We now have a great example in Families Need Fathers - even if they changed their name to Both Parents Matter. From the mid 00s the main, VERY respected charity aiming to cause 'soft landing'; after a parental rift. And even thin with many female senior members and campaigners.
(you can see how Esti and dad were their pinups - at the press pages linked along the top)
However as from the early 10s the government tricked everyone by 'hoodwinking' the peeps via the new CSFB bill that in fact sneaked through Parliament in the 2010 'washout'. Transparency is only two way: all or nothing. the 2006 test case had established that wider justice required it to be pretty much all the way. The CSFB sneaked back in, nothing.
And FNF had nothing to say.... as of course ever 'actually 'campaigning' against the government meant they may get less grant funding... or miscellaneous third sector advantage... (jobs for those lovely little professional office based London types who manage the likes of FNF)
Well.. a month ago it is announced that a woman's lobbying organisation have seemingly managed to lobby, to reverse the FOUNDATION of modern family law. That there is a presumption via the 1989 Children's Act that both parents have contact with their child unless a VERY good reason.
... and immediately BPM, or FNF, go into full bleating mode....
Now..it will be interesting as due to THEIR failure to also protect the transparency inherent in this legal change created alone by me, here, then.. that held for about 8 years in reality...
as their members are denied justice by the same old shabby system.... and parents are unjustly blanked out of their childrens' lives...i wonder if they may also realise that the ONE disinfectant - transparency, the disinfectant of sunshine, they were too sniffy not to have held their nose and protect as necessary for extreme times especially..
is no longer available to them, as they failed to work to protect just that transparency i had brought in at great personal cost and not even FOR us....
FAr more for the many women parents who would be wrongly attacked by the state playing games with their kids...for money rather than do what the law required - that same one, of 1989, to assist families in a mess... not get paid a LOT to wrench their kids FROM them ...
(see the Film Listen referred to a few years ago in write ups in this site - fabulous true to life movie)
However...
Now this is no agreement that the 1989 needs to be reviewed... as i know there is no review or legislation that can deal with the actual problem.
I had the great privilege in the period 2003-6 of regularly dealing with at great length 7 or 8 senior 'domestic issues' journalists. All women... from Frances Gibb legal editor of The Times to Sue Reid of The Mail to a few others (see my paper clippings) - Tessa Cunningham and famous writer ..i forget her name..of the Torygraph... (she is so twee and rubbish)
But every single one in our many many hour private chats would say the following " we know the courts... civil and other are absolutely FULL of women making up false allegations..."
Not men (even if the men caught up with that nasty little habit by about 15 years ago.. ), women..
And i kino0w from a decade+ of assisting others - mainly women actually, as lay legal ... with many very serious court cases that it gets just worse...
But then there is a secondary matter that is the real primary matter i have no idea how society can deal with, which is what can only be called mass BPD.
I don't like to use any psych label (even if expert) and any other label either. BUt there is a definite thing for at least a decade now of so many being so so completely mixed up inside about what their own 'truth' is that it must be called 'borderline personality disorder'.
But what does this mean and how does it manifest: Almost every single one of at least another dozen of litigants i have sat down with (over days!) the last 7 or 8 years will tell me of huge dossiers they have of 'evidence' for their case - injustice against them, and how they are fully committed to fighting the baddies... (the same old shabby and at times quite evil lanyarded court or social services people) ..
And yet when they are given some simple first steps to put their legal fight on track - with examples of how this works or has for others...
They nowadays never actually TAKE any next step. It is as if their whole extremely heartfelt and usually justified major oft repeated "campaign" for their justice ..is almost a performance... a rather tragic charade they are entirely subsumed to - identifying themselves (in routine ordinary public-place encounter) as Boudica .. on behalf of lost children, often very young... but unable to actually ever take forward the smallest agreed next step.
To me this is in fact i have to conclude a weird form of attention speaking. Not unlike the Shannon Matthews moment .. some weird cry for help...
But they are so so so clever...so so so convincing.. often not even i - spending many hours with them talking all the relevant history time and again, and clearly ON their 'side' can ever any more figure the real truth. Not of the 'evidence' against them - as that's usually easy - there isn't much. But whether they even intend to take forward the action required to just get a court order in their favour (for access to a child) which has been unlawfully and lazily not facilitated by Social Worker or CAFCAS...
It all became like some mad Truman Show reality TV thing... and lots know me and how nothing gets past me.... i invented legal compromise and always rise above bickering and even the default false allegations... to find a compromise and safe future...but nobody can ever listen to that any more.... so many stuck in Alice's Looking Glass....
Now....so what happened?
Unlike every single other person in this utterly headfucked aisle..i don't moan or perform.
On January 15th 2010 AGAINST the most famous Court solution in the UK justice system ever
my daughter was stolen. (all evidence at the time she was doing BETTER than any other kid at her useless dump of a LLangorse primary school - but in fact the Head and deputy head had said so the December before in an office to me as i had small hints that the baddies were planning something and required an official meet... )
And then nearly 16 years of trying to assist her forward..
Stockholm syndrome - in our case put in by the step 'father' a true sociopath who deserted his own kids when they were young and thus couldnt be reminded someone...hadnt..., is serious. And in fact despite every single awful middle class English woman i have known - many sort of friends, who NEVER did anything to assist us... "ohh....she will find her way back one day.." being so NPD mad .. as in fact damage done to a child around the age of 11 is permanent...
so they never do!
the worst offender is a sort of famous fake...
https://www.ralphschism.com/p/archpointyhat.html
One day i shall write all that up fully...as only full transparency is ever going to help anyone forward in the REAL UK
where... https://www.ralphschism.com/p/amen.html gives part 1...
And you contact UKs leading only 'estrangement' 'charity' ... openly and kindly..
and (in contradiction to their fraudulently implied remit) they actually never ever DO anything to support ANYone in estrangement... dont even reply to the second email...
all of which is recorded and ONE day soon that trale must be fully told, too
